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What are my options?
Pregnancy can be a time of joy; however, when it is unplanned or complicated
by strained relationships, family tensions, poor timing, health concerns,
financial difficulties, and school or career pressures, it can be confusing.
The stress and anxiety of an unplanned pregnancy can make it difficult
to think clearly. It's hard to imagine the future and the impact this
one decision will have on your life. At Parkridge, we can help you sort
things out so you can decide with a clear mind. There are basically 4
options for you: getting married and co-parenting the child, single parenting,
placing your child for adoption, or having an abortion. Before you decide,
you have the right to have as much information as possible. We can provide
you with facts about fetal development, abortion techniques and abortion
risks, adoption procedures, pregnancy, parenting, and healthy relationships.
This is one of the biggest decisions you will make in your life. Despite
the stress-you need to weigh your alternatives. Before you choose, carefully
consider the options based on information, not just emotion. Use your
head to guide your heart. None of the choices is easy. Let Parkridge help.
We can provide you with accurate information and free and confidential
counseling.
What should
I know about abortion?
Abortion is a very important medical
procedure that can affect your health. It could affect the rest of your
life. If you are pregnant, you are ultimately the one that will have to
make the decision and live with the outcome. Make your decision only after
you have found answers to these commonly asked questions. The right to
choose includes the right to know. Those who are considering abortion
often ask questions such as-What will happen to me during an abortion?
What are the different types of abortion? Will it hurt? What does the
fetus look like right now? What can he or she do? Can he or she feel pain?
What legal rights do I have before & after an abortion? Can anyone
force me to have an abortion? What are the possible physical complications
and emotional consequences following an abortion? What other alternatives
do I have? Parkridge Pregnancy Center can help find answers to these questions.
The choices that you face today with an unplanned
pregnancy are complex and carry with them a whole set of issues that you
are better off knowing about at the outset rather than finding out too
late. The right to choose includes the right to know. You need to know
that currently there are 9 different types of abortion. The abortion procedure
used depends upon the stage of pregnancy and the size of the baby. You
should also be aware that as a result of abortion, the following physical
complications could occur: excessive bleeding, infection, perforation
of the uterus, cervical lacerations, increased risk for future miscarriages
and sterility, and increased risk for breast cancer. In addition, after
an abortion, many women experience one or more of the following emotional
consequences, some of which might take several years to surface: guilt,
long-term grief reactions, anxiety, anger, flashbacks, anniversary reactions,
broken relationships, denial and depression. Many doctors who perform
abortions seldom warn women of the possible consequences, which is a serious
violation of medical ethics. You have a right to be informed of all of
your options and any other information that might affect your decision,
but if you don't ask, you may forfeit that right. Don't be intimidated.
After all, it is your body, and you will suffer the effects if anything
goes wrong. It's your choice-just make sure that you can live with that
choice for the rest of your life.
Should I consider
adoption?
Parkridge Pregnancy Center is committed
to serving you, as well as your family and your partner if you are seeking
help in making decisions about an unplanned pregnancy. Placing your child
for adoption is a positive, life-giving choice you can make for your child.
Adoption is a legal procedure that places a child with adoptive parents
who raise the child as a member of their own family. The child legally
becomes a permanent member of the adoptive family. Sometimes a birth parent
isn't ready to raise a child. Adoptive parents may be better equipped
to provide the permanence and security that children need. It is not selfish
to consider adoption. It's not selfish to choose what is best for you
and your baby. Wanting to provide a secure family for your child shows
your love and maturity because you realize the importance of raising a
child in a loving family situation. Adoption agencies have long lists
of couples who are unable to have children and who are ready to love and
raise a child. Today adoptions can be done on an open or semi-open basis
where the birth mother can have contact with the child or receive pictures
and written updates regarding the child's life. Authorities estimate that
15 to 20 loving couples wait for every healthy infant available, and many
families are waiting to adopt babies who are born with handicaps. Many
couples wait up to 6 years for a "chosen child." Some wait forever.
. . Let us give you information about all of your options. You make all
the decisions, but we can help answer some of your questions.
What about single
parenting?
When you are faced with decisions
involving an unplanned pregnancy, there are no easy choices. At Parkridge,
we are committed to providing you with complete and accurate information
on each of your options. Parenting is a huge but rewarding responsibility.
To choose to parent is to choose to fully invest yourself in the life
of another, for the sake of the other. Most find parenting to be an even
bigger blessing than they originally thought it would be, but they also
find it to be more challenging than they imagined it would be. As with
any life-changing decision, you must ask yourself several questions. A
few of those questions are: Do I have an adequate support system to raise
this child? Do I have the resources to support a child financially, physically,
emotionally and spiritually? Could I handle a child and a job and/or school
at the same time? What are my personal life goals and how would a child
fit into that plan? and Am I willing to learn what it takes to be a good
parent? There are programs that will allow you to continue your school
and still parent, and there is also financial assistance for many situations.
Some organizations even provide job referrals for single moms. Many organizations,
such as ours, provide parenting classes and material assistance. In an
unplanned pregnancy, no decision looks perfect and each decision has consequences
that will affect you and your unborn child. But choices don't have to
be made alone-we're here to help you in the decision-making process.
What about marriage?
Unplanned pregnancies often lead
to the question of marriage, but commitment is often a missing ingredient
in many marriages today. A good question to ask is, "Would we be
getting married if I were not pregnant?" Other questions you need
to answer are: At this time in my life, do I have what it takes to be
a good husband or wife? If we marry, can we both finish school? Do we
have enough money to support a family? Do we have similar goals? Do I
want to marry to escape a bad situation? Are we ready to commit our lives
to each other and our baby? Marriage is not necessarily the solution of
all problems. It may, in fact, create problems. Being married to the wrong
person can be much worse than not being married. The pressure may be great
to make a quick decision, but Parkridge is here to help you with lifelong
decisions.
At Parkridge Pregnancy Center we recognize
that women have a right to make their own decisions about the outcome
of their pregnancy. We exist to help women make an informed and thoughtful
decision. The information provided on this website is not intended to
diagnose any condition or pregnancy and should not take the place of your
medical practitioner. Consult your physician with any medical questions
you might have. The information and services are provided with the understanding
that neither Parkridge Pregnancy Center nor its suppliers or users are
engaged in rendering legal, medical, counseling or other professional
services or advice.
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Pregnancy Center. All rights reserved.
This material may not be utilized or reproduced in any form by any means
without the express written consent of Parkridge Pregnancy Center.
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